Sailing Teamwork and "Divorce Docking"

For a sailor that mostly goes it single handed sailing I found this video on CNN about coaching and teamwork interesting. The second half of the video is where the teamwork becomes the focus. This is has increasingly been a topic of interest since I want to get the first mate more time on the water and also to avoid the weekend sporting event of "Divorce docking". This the time honored event that happens most summer weekends in a harbor near you where a husband steering a boat to dock yells orders to his wife, who has just made a perilous jump to the dock and is currently trying to control a several ton object, yells back. We have already done this a few times and I never questioned the duty assignments. Let's review;  we have one job that requires a gentle touch with a little finesse and another job that requires brut force to man-handle a couple tons with momentum. Hmm.. might want to rethink those assignments.